Holy Matrimony – Marriage

A couple intending marriage should approach the Pastor, his Associate or the Deacon as soon as possible after engagement. St. Anselm follows the common policy of the Archdiocese of St. Louis that requires an assessment phase and a preparation phase for individuals before their marriage. A minimum of six months will be needed between initial contact and the marriage. The priest or deacon will outline the different options available and the Director of Music will assist the couple with wedding music preparation.

Marriage Preparation Couple

These couples are teams of spouses trained to help couples prepare for marriage. A team meets with an engaged couple for four sessions covering various aspects of Christian marriage and family life. Preparation for second marriages is also available.

  • If you are interested to volunteer in this service, please contact Deacon Charlie Durban at (314) 878-2120, ext. 23.

The Engaged

The first step is to call the Parish (314) 878-2120. The Parish makes the basic arrangements and takes the couple through the Pre-nuptial Inquiry and FOCUS, and discusses the ceremony itself (readings, music, etc.). The next step is one of the following preparations: Engaged Encounter, Weekends for the Engaged, weekend programs, Preparing for Christian Marriage or a series of videos and talks at various parishes. For information on any of the above, call the Family Life Office at (314) 792-7173. We also have Parish Couples who discuss the same material. They may be reached through the Pastor or the priest planning to preside at the wedding.

The Married

Marriage Encounter is a program to make good marriages better.

  • If you are interested, please call (314) 469-7317.

Retrouvaille is a program for troubled marriages. Like Marriage Encounter, it is a weekend program but has a different focus.

  • If you are interested, please call (314) 523-0586